It all matters, everything. The family, social status, parenting, money, dinner, the presentation, the big pitch and most importantly how hard you work on yourself. Self investments have never been short on return on investment. The only regrets I hear in H-hour Counseling are regrets of not pursuing a healing journey. A journey with love, and forgiveness, and gratitude, and beauty.
Once we make a plan to access our greatest rejections and betrayals the better we get at applying game theory. Game theory is the study of strategic decision-making — how individuals or groups choose actions when the outcome depends not only on their own choices but also on the choices of others. The ability to understand the risks and probabilities of the endeavor will be the unfair advantage you will reap. Fitness, business, investing, self-help and learning all unfold in the same way. A massive emotional wave of embarassment that hits when we realize we do not know what we are doing.
The real games start in the mind with each emotion in the form of current that poses risk to the course.
Then we attempt to stack the odds in our favor to achieve the greatest degree of compounding interest. Only purposeful action allows us to eliminate the worry, anxiety, fear and concerns. This forces us to work so hard on winning that we don’t have time to think about losing. That is Mental Health. A state where our rational mind considers the risk and our irrational mind triggers us to do it anyway. This Peace of Mind becomes you because you can’t read or watch this experience. It is a chosen life of healing and growth.
This behavioral shift becomes a source of regret for anyone who once doubted your healing, growth, and peace of mind. I’ve found that my clients’ greatest power is the power to choose — to work diligently on their patterns of behavior, thought, and speech in pursuit of a more sophisticated version of self. Each step forward is a better reflection and tribute to the ancestors who chose to endure to the best of their ability. No pressure.
Whether a client chooses not to change, to change a little, or to change completely, the unfolding of that choice becomes the most exciting psychological thriller of all — a story of how growth can expand in rapid succession, beyond what the world can ever truly comprehend. No sentient being nor quantum physicist, actuary, computer or “mathemagician” can measure it.
Enjoy your test of heart.
Dr. Vince